Planning an LGBTQ+ wedding is a joyful adventure, but it can come with its own hurdles: suppliers who are not truly inclusive, traditions that do not fit, awkward questions or plain stress. Above all, though, it is a powerful act of love and a unique chance to rethink the rules and create a day that truly reflects you.
At Planners, we believe every couple deserves tailored, caring and committed support. Here are our ideas and tips, and how to find professionals who will make the day unforgettable.
01 | Getting married as an LGBTQ+ couple in the UK
Same-sex couples have been able to marry in England and Wales since March 2014, in Scotland since December 2014 and in Northern Ireland since January 2020. Civil partnerships are also open to all couples, whatever their gender. Legally, your wedding works exactly like any other: give notice at your local register office, then marry in a register office, an approved venue or, where it allows it, a religious building.
Many couples then add a personal ceremony led by a celebrant (in Scotland, humanist celebrants can even conduct the legal marriage). It is the perfect space to tell your story freely: see our guide to humanist and celebrant-led ceremonies.
02 | Original ideas and inspiring themes
A theme is a perfect way to express who you are as a couple. From rainbow touches to themes drawn from your favourite inclusive films or books, the possibilities are endless for celebrating your love in a joyful, luminous way. Symbolic rituals, such as blending colours or personal vows, make the ceremony truly memorable.
Add a personal touch with:
- A colour-blending ritual, with sand or ribbons in your colours
- Vows written together, or a surprise each
- A ceremony led by an inclusive celebrant who knows how to tell your story
💡 More inspiration in our 10 wedding ceremony ritual ideas.
03 | Practical tips for a successful wedding
Start with a plan that respects both your budget and your wishes. Choosing suppliers who share your values is essential, and communication is key: talk openly with each of them so your expectations are fully understood. Weave in elements that reflect both of your personalities: tell your story!
- Set your budget from the start
- Identify your priorities: venue, catering, ceremony and so on
- Surround yourselves with inclusive suppliers who listen
- Be transparent with every partner (and check their contracts and forms use inclusive wording)
- Plan a clear timeline to keep stress down
04 | How to choose inclusive wedding suppliers
Choosing committed suppliers ensures your day is celebrated with respect and inclusivity. Look for professionals who have already worked on LGBTQ+ weddings, ask for recommendations and read reviews. A good supplier listens, suggests creative ideas in line with your wishes and is genuinely enthusiastic about your world.
- Favour professionals who have already supported LGBTQ+ couples (ask to see their portfolio)
- Read reviews and testimonials from other couples
- Rely on word of mouth and committed platforms such as Planners
- Make sure the chemistry is there: listening, respect, enthusiasm
05 | Inspiring stories from LGBTQ+ couples
Hearing other couples' experiences brings support and inspiration. Their stories are often full of emotion and ceremonies filled with sincerity and happiness, and they offer fresh ideas on how to approach each step. By sharing your own story, you inspire the couples who come after you.
06 | In short
With the right ideas and committed suppliers, planning an LGBTQ+ wedding becomes an adventure full of creativity and love. Need a hand? A wedding planner can take the organisation off your shoulders: find one near you in our directory.
